and I thought taiwan dramas were just vapid entertainment.
last night I was alone at home, and watching my weekly dose of 就想赖着你 (or Down With Love for those of you who either failed chinese, or aren't chinese but watch chinese dramas thanks to subtitles) on Channel U.
I like it, but it's not like I can't live without it, you understand. it just so happens I'm at home and not going out every saturday night.
anyway, to not bore you with details...
these two best friends, after many twists and turns in the plot, decide they both love the same girl.
one of them actually hurt her before, but now decides he really loves her. so he suggests that they "compete fairly" for her.
that got me thinking.
as far as relationships are (and I am) concerned, guys can compete on equal ground for a relationship.
If you can ask her out, so can I.
If I can confess to her, you have every right in the world to do the same, before or after me.
and I believe in that.
or at least I used to, prior to last night.
this whole concept of "fair competition" has a simple and fatal flaw.
you and I can strive equally for that someone's time and affection, yes. that's fair.
but we forget.
for all our pursuit of fairness, is your little competition fair for he/she who is caught in your crossfire?
and what then, after you get the girl?
i might be a fool or a coward for not willing to risk it all.
but my happiness should not come at anyone's expense.
